WHAT TO EXPECT
Coming back to the Philippines after living abroad for years can feel overwhelming at first. Here are some culture shocks you might experience and what to expect as you readjust.
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CULTURE SHOCKS
If you are not familiar with the social norms and culture of the Philippines, certain everyday experiences might catch you off guard. From playful jokes and unique mindsets to family dynamics and communication styles, these moments can feel surprising at first.
Transportation is an exercise, a war
Navigating public transportation in the Philippines can be challenging for newcomers, with bus routes, stops, and train systems often feeling confusing. Many people turn to ride-hailing apps like Grab, InDrive, and Green GSM for cars, or Angkas, Move It, and JoyRide for motorcycles. These services offer a convenient and reliable way to get around without the stress of figuring out routes.
Philippines is a very Catholic country
The Philippines is a conservative country and heavily influenced by Catholic teachings, leading to extensive opposition regarding divorce, same sex marriage, etc. However, the Philippines remains a secular country, where the country allows people to practice their own religion.
Utang na Loob Mindset
This Filipino value refers to an obligation to repay someone who has done you a favor. While this can be related to a lot of Filipino values, it can also be toxic or manipulative in the eyes of someone who did not grow up with the same values.
The concept of “Mano”, “Po”, and “Opo”
In Filipino culture, saying “mano po” and using “po” and “opo” are important expressions of respect toward elders. Filipino TCKs raised abroad may be less familiar with these practices, as they are not commonly used in other countries. A simple way to show respect, especially if not yet comfortable speaking Tagalog, is by adding “po” to English sentences, such as, “How much is this, po?” or “When are you coming back, po?” This small adjustment helps make communication more culturally appropriate.
“Filipino time”
Although ‘Filipino time’ can be frustrating for those on the receiving end, many factors contribute to it. Unexpected traffic jams, long lines, and long waiting times. Filipinos try hard to get there on time, but are also sometimes met with unavoidable delays.
Humor and teasing culture
Filipino humor often includes playful teasing, known as asaran, which usually reflects closeness and familiarity. Among family and close friends, directness is common and rarely meant to offend. It’s a sign of comfort in the relationship. For those unfamiliar with this dynamic, it may feel harsh or be misunderstood. Recognizing banter as a form of bonding can help Filipino TCKs respond appropriately and see it as social connection rather than disrespect.
Safety or being street smart is a learning curve
Adapting to safety in the Philippines is not about being paranoid, but about developing better situational awareness. The country is generally not very dangerous, and like in any other place, you simply need to be aware of your surroundings. This includes being mindful of your belongings in public and learning the best commuting routes. Once these “street smart” habits are learned, navigating the country becomes a much more confident, comfortable, and secure experience.
Indirect communication
In Filipino culture, people may avoid a direct “no” to keep harmony (pakikisama/hiya). Reading between the lines is equivalent to noticing tone, body language, and word choices. When someone mentions phrases such as “baka”, “tingnan natin,” or in english “we’ll see” could indicate hesitation rather than agreement.
Wearing slippers at home
Wearing slippers inside the house in the Philippines is very normal and common practice. This cultural practice signifies hygiene, and is also shown as a gesture of care and protection to the home and the people inside of it.
Fiestas
Filipinos are known to be hospitable and known to treat visitors very well. In celebrations like in fiestas, even if you’re a stranger, they will still welcome you warmly with phrases such as “kain na” and invite you to their house to celebrate.
Hospitality
Filipinos are known for their hospitality and friendly nature. However, this kindness can sometimes be taken advantage of by scammers or street people who pretend to be helpful, especially when someone looks lost or in need of assistance. While our hospitality is often seen as a positive trait, it is still important to be street-smart and cautious to avoid being exploited.